Thursday, September 27, 2007
Thank you for all of your well-wishes!
We are thrilled beyond imagination.
The closest thing I can compare it to is what I imagine it feels like to find out your pregnant. Yes, we've known for a long time that this was what we wanted to do...but actually getting the call to invite us over there to meet with a child is the closest I've ever come to getting a positive test result.
And, as my kids would say...it ROCKS!
To know that in less than two and a half months we will meet our youngest child just blows our minds! :)
She (he?) is out there...waiting.
Everyone has been asking me...okay, so now what?
The truth is...I don't really know.
Explaining this process is so hard.
But I'll try my best to define a process that defies explanation.
But first a few house rules...
- Rule #1 - The rules are bound to change. This is the one and only true international adoption rule that will stick through this entire process.
- Rule #2 - Nothing will happen quickly. Our timetable is not their timetable. Unfortunately we can't hurry things along or make them understand how important it is for things to move at a more rapid pace. Thankfully, their timetable isn't their timetable either...it's God's. That's a big comfort! :)
- Rule 3# - Respect, respect, respect - This is another country...another culture. They have their own traditions, their own methods to their madness and we have to accept it. And we have to respect it. We may not always agree with them, but we're going to be in their country, adopting their children. We must be honor the differences and do things their way whether we agree with it or not.
- - We leave for Ukraine sometime in early December for our appointment with the SDA on Dec. 5th.
- - At that appointment we will be shown files of some children who fit our request criteria. (Healthy/mild correctable conditions, preferably female but open to male, three years and younger). We will take a look at these files, pray and then make a decision as to which child we want to meet. I personally hope that God just puts a big red check mark on the one he wants to be our daughter (son?). Otherwise, I don't have any idea of how we'll make a decision.
- - Once we decide to go ahead and meet a child we'll have to wait a day or so for some paperwork giving us permission to meet that child and then we head to their region. We'll take off either by car or train to go to the region. Ukraine is about the same size as Texas (or so I've heard).
- - We'll meet the child and if we decide to pursue the adoption then some more paperwork will be sent back to Kyiv and we'll schedule a court date. While we wait for the court date we'll be able to continue to meet with our child, bond and get to know her (his?) hometown. Court usually takes at least two weeks to schedule, so we'll be waiting awhile.
- - Once court is done, Meshack will come home. I may join him depending on a few things which I'll get into in a minute
- - It will take 10 days for the court's decision to go into effect. It gives the biological family time to appeal the decision...then we'll have custody of her. Then we apply for a passport, go back to Kyiv to the U.S. embassy to fill out some paperwork to get her a visa and then we can come home! :)
- - How long this last part takes will decide whether I come home with Meshack or not. If it takes too long to get the passport, I may come home and then go back after the wait is over and the passport has been issued..that way I'll only have to be in the country for another week. Otherwise I could be in Ukraine for 4 to 6 weeks!
That's a LONG time.
(Note to self: Remember rule #2, remember rule #2, remember rule #2...)
I'm leaning toward coming home.
So there you have it...a very complicated process, broken down into small, manageable, but still highly complicated parts.
All of it has to come together perfectly for this adoption to be completed.
Honestly, though, when you take it a step at a time it's not so bad.
And the first step is to get those airline tickets! ;)