Tuesday, October 30, 2007
I talked with the agency about my silly little question, which I'll tell you about in a minute.
We're on a mission.
Meshack and I are going to tackle the 'To Do' list tomorrow.
We're going to split up...and take on these things head on.
It's the only way we're going to get anything done.
I'm tackling four things on the list.
He gets five. (He has Tuesday's off, I think it's only fair.) ;)
...and Happy New Year!
Yea, I know...it's a little early...but it was on my "To Do" list today.
- Address envelopes for Christmas cards.
And you know me and my checklists.
I have to follow them to the 'T'.
Now before you go getting all impressed, remember, I'm going to be gone in December.
I usually wait until the last minute to send this thing out, fighting the crowds at the local post office (okay, who am I kidding, our town is tiny!) to get the cards mailed with a Dec. 24th date!
But I realized last night that if I'm going to get my annual missive out at all, I need to get it done...NOW!
And while it probably shouldn't be high on my priority list, it is. Call me crazy, but it's a part of my holiday tradition.
And honestly anything traditional or routine right now brings with it a feeling of normalcy.
And I need that.
The funny thing is ...and I didn't realize this until I was working on the letter a little while ago...I'm signing the letter:
Love, Meshack, Tami, Q-ball, Punky and JacJac.
But by the time our friends and family gets the letter we'll have added Maddie to the list.
So do I wait until we return to send out our letter?
Or do I send it now with the news of her pending arrival and then send out a follow-up email later on?
I know what you're thinking...
"Well, why don't you just send out announcements?"
Honestly (and I'm ashamed to admit this), I didn't send out announcements for any of the kids...so I don't know if I should send out one for this one.
Somehow, it doesn't seem quite fair. (color me sheepish)
What to do, what to do...
I finally did something to get ready for this adoption, besides making a laundry list of things to get done.
I went shopping.
The funny thing is I didn't get that much accomplished.
At least not if you look at my 'To Do' list.
I didn't get much checked off at all.
But I did take care of a couple of 'biggies'...for me.
I have two main concerns while we're there.
The first - laundry.
There's been a discussion on the FRUA boards lately about laundry facilities. To be honest, when we adopted from Russia it wasn't THAT big of a concern. For Q-ball we were there just under a week...we just brought all of our dirty clothes home with us.
For Punky and JacJac, it was a bit longer, but still not much of a hardship.
This time I could be there well over a month.
I'm going to need to get good at doing laundry without all of the modern conveniences - like a dryer...and maybe a washer.
So I've compiled a list of things I need to get ready.
And I started checking them off on yesterday's shopping trip.
The other concern is medical.
I'm absolutely petrified of getting sick while we're over there and not having any way of getting my hands on NyQui!!
I've even taken the unprecedented step of SUGGESTING to Meshack that we get our flu shots!!!
Can you believe it?!
I WANT to get a shot!
I must be getting sick.
What I am is worried...make that concerned.
Since I'll be there for so long, and away from everything that is familiar, I'm thinking germs will see me as a prime target. And my only experience with the Russian (Ukrainian) medical system left something to be desired.
When we adopted Q-ball he had a terrible bug. We took him to the doctor (for the Visa exam) and they prescribed several concoctions, none of which were antibiotics, only one of which was even vaguely familiar...MOMS...aka - Vicks Vap0 Rub.
I hate that stuff!
The other stuff seemed holistic in nature and we weren't too comfortable with that. So needless to say we relied pretty heavily on the pediatric Ty!enol Cold medicine we brought with us. Thankfully we were only in the country for a week...by the time we got him to our pediatrician he had an ear infection, bronchitis and possibly strep.
Ever since then, I've made sure to bring the entire medicine cabinet with us.
So you can imagine what my list is looking like.
Here's a peek at the stuff I was able to check off yesterday...
It's good to be back.
I'm am sitting in my way-to-huge, comfy computer desk chair, sipping my skim milk, munching on 0reos and lazily reading blogs.
It is sooooo good to be back.
It feels like forever since I've blogged anything real...but the funny thing is you all aren't that far behind in the life and times of the ______ family.
Nothing much has happened in the last week.
At least nothing really bloggable. (Is that a word?)
To fill you in...
So there you have it.
See...I told you there wasn't much to tell.
So the real question is...if I would have been blogging all week...what would I have written about?!
Meshack just called!
The box arrived!
WE HAVE INTERNET!!!!
Now I can get back to posting...and checking all your blogs.
What have ya'll been up to?
And did anyone notice while I was gone we broke the 40 day barrier?
We're still out of commission.
It's so bad that now I can't even get dial-up!
That means I'm having to resort to posting this from work...
(Shhhhh!!!! Don't tell anybody!)
I just didn't want you all to worry too much about me.
Hopefully we'll have our new DSL box in the next day or so.
I'll let you know when it gets here! :)
We're cut off.
Discombobulated. (I love that word.)
We've been thrown back into the dark ages.
Our home Internet is down.
How did we ever live without our beloved DSL?!
And what has the world come to, that my husband called me today to commiserate with me. He is off on Tuesdays and he was actually considering going into the clinic so that he could jump on the Internet?
I know how he feels, although I don't think I would get quite that extreme.
I'd go next door to the neighbors! :)
The worst part is he called the Internet provider and they think our DSL box is fried.
And we can't get a new box for a few days.
They suggested going back to dial-up.
I didn't think we'd have to resort to that!
We left the dial-up world last year and haven't looked back once. But I guess if we want to have any access at home before Friday, we're going to have to pull out a phone cord and plug 'Betsy' in.
I know what you're thinking.
You're thinking - 'What wimps! They'll never make it in Ukraine.'
You may be right.
We do have one thing going for us though.
The last time we adopted, in 2002. There was barely an Internet in Russia. We had to wait for a translator to drive us 20 minutes to the only Internet cafe in town and then have her translate everything for us so we could send a four sentence email.
This time we're taking our own laptop.
I think we'll be fine. ;)
Warning: I'm feeling especially peeved today over all of the repeat questions we are getting from everyone in general (No, not the blogging community. You're safe from my wrath.) The following blog may not be suitable for people who are new to this adoption process and are still enjoying the endless supply of 'innocent' questions...or were through this process so long ago that you have forgotten about these blasted things!
I got an e-mail this morning from my mother.
One that you never want to get.
She told me that a dear friend had been killed in a car accident this morning.
And just like that, my friend was gone.
I met Terri growing up in Colorado.
We attended the same church and while she was an adult, and I was just a snot-nosed, punk kid - she became my friend.
Someone I could look up to.
Someone I could trust.
When I started high school a few years later she became my teacher.
And I had to start calling her Mrs. B.
But she was always more than my teacher.
She was a dear friend.
All through those tumultuous years she was there.
She not only taught me English and Spanish...she taught me about life.
She smiled when she found out I had a crush on Meshack.
She hugged me when she found out he felt the same.
She cried with me when we broke up my senior year.
And was thrilled for me when he asked me out again a year later.
All the while she handed back papers with As and Bs on them; taught me about literature, punctuation and outlining term papers; and directed me in school plays.
Terri encouraged me in my love of writing and guided me in finding the right school to pursue my dream.
When she found out Meshack and I were engaged, she volunteered to help with the flowers.
And she oohed and aaahed over Q-ball when we first brought him home.
The last time I saw her was at my parent's church last Christmas. We were home for a quick vacation and Meshack needed some advice from her husband (who is also a vet). Terri and I talked about the kids...she showed me pictures of her new grandchild.
And I shared the secret that we were thinking about adopting again.
She was thrilled...gave me a hug...and a few minutes later walked out the door.
Then on this gray, Friday morning at just after 9 a.m. she she headed to work...
Just like she did every weekday morning.
Driving the same stretch of highway...
Listening to the same radio station...
Probably planning out her day.
Just as she did every morning.
And then in a split second -
She was gone.
I know I'll see Terri again.
I know her perspective on things right now is so much clearer than mine.
I know she's happy.
But I still can't help but be a little sad.
Sorry I haven't posted lately.
My home computer has been on the fritz...
And blogging at work last week was virtually impossible.
Hopefully things will settle down this week and I can get back to being my happy, bloggy self.