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Friday, October 31, 2008

The silence around here has been deafening hasn't it? Sorry about that, but the last four days have been a blurr.
First I want to thank all of your for your prayers and condolences. The girls are doing much better. The older one has been released from the hospital, but the baby (1 yr old) is still in critical condition. She is off the respirator though and breathing on her own. That is a big blessing.
Please continue to pray for the family, especially Me-'s husband who is having to comfort a one year old in a lot of pain and a four year old who can't understand why mommy isn't coming home.
In other news...
I think I have the flu.
It started on Monday and has been getting progressively worse over the last few days. Last night was the worst - I didn't sleep much at all. Today my voice is pretty much gone...and that doesn't work too well with a hard-of-hearing child! ;>)
Ummm...what else.
Oh, yea. Anya's test results.
The audiologist says Anya has a 6% hearing loss in her right ear. He doesn't know what its from, but says it could be from the damage to her ears from all the ear infections she had as a baby.
UGH!
I just want to scream. I know after we brought her home she was one constant ear infection. We were in the doctor's office almost every month for a year before they would consider removing her tonsils, taking out the adenoids and eventually putting in tubes.
On her medical report it didn't mention anything about ear infections, but they talked about her getting colds a lot.
The only symptom Anya ever exhibits with ear infections is a runny nose...also a classic symptom of a cold. How much do you want to bet she went with ear infections undiagnosed for about the first year of her life?
No wonder she didn't pull at her ears or show any discomfort at all, even with a horrible middle ear infection at the age of two!!!!
CAN YOU TELL I'M ANGRY?!
Every once in awhile this happens to me. I get incredibly frustrated over the needless suffering my children endured in the orphanage, and the permanent scars it left on them.
The audiologist wants us to take her to an ENT to have her checked out and in the meantime, Anya's teacher will be using an FM system. He said it is not affecting her academically, so I'm not sure why he needs to put her through the embarrassment of having to be different, but we're explaining to Anya she is getting to experience a little of what Maddie goes through every day. I think that has helped.
On a lighter note...
My brother, sister-in-law and their kids are in town from Oregon. We're pretty excited to see them. My whole family will be getting together for dinner on Sunday, which is a rare occurrence. Hopefully I'll be able to post some really cute pictures next week.
In the meantime, it may be a little quiet around here. I'm going to try to sleep off this bug.

8 salty messages:

Diana October 31, 2008 at 6:01 PM  

My Matthew does the same thing with ear infections. He had one about ready to burst and I had no idea because he never showed any pain or anything...but if he has a little tiny scrape or owie or something, boy, he lets me know about it! I've since learned that this is a pretty typical reaction for "hurt" kids - which all PI kids are in some way. It is completely maddening, heartbreaking, mind boggling, and yes, I've been through my share of the angries over the whole thing as well.

Hope you get to feeling better soon!

Tami October 31, 2008 at 6:06 PM  

Yea, we learned the high pain tolerance lesson with Alek the hard way.
The first week we had him home, he was just learning to walk (actually run) and he ran into the corner of our dining room table. Even though his head was cut wide open and bleeding profusely, he bounced right up and continued playing.
ABSOLUTELY BROKE OUR HEARTS! (And honestly scared the daylights out of us.) We did some research and learned how to help heal. Now he's pretty good at telling us when he's hurt. ;>)

MamaPoRuski October 31, 2008 at 6:43 PM  

Glad to see you post, please get rest and know we are thinking of you and praying for you all! God Bless!
(I'll put off posting my "Goat in a Cow's World" until your better...)

Elaine October 31, 2008 at 7:37 PM  

Hope you feel better soon! I totally don't blame you for feeling angry. It's the mother bear in us.

Chad and Tara October 31, 2008 at 8:15 PM  

I just blogged about this very topic- the suffering of children in orphanages. It is so heartbreaking.

Tara

Bethany October 31, 2008 at 10:28 PM  

My older son, though home-grown, showed very little pain in his second year. He got a really nasty burn on his leg from the water heater in our apartment's laundry room, and except for moving away from it quickly, did not make it apparent that he was burned. Even when the doctor pushed on the blister the next day he showed no pain. He never showed pain with an ear infection, either. It sure doesn't make it easy to help them. Glad to hear that your family is getting a little better. Continued prayers for you all.
-Bethany

Tina in CT October 31, 2008 at 11:13 PM  

Poor Anya with what she had to endure her year in the orphange. I totally agree with how you feel.

Sorry to hear that you have the flu. Get to bed and get over it so you can go and enjoy your family gathering on Sunday.

Susan November 2, 2008 at 1:27 PM  

I hope the flu turned out to be the fast kind, and that you're much better now (Sunday),

My younger cousin from Ukraine's experience was a carbon copy of Anya's...repeated inadequately treated ear infections that left her eardrums scarred and her hearing slightly damaged - yet not a sign of pain. Her parents discovered the situation when she went to the pediatrician for her thorough check-up during her second or third week home (at age almost seven). She had a bad ear infection then - but no fever, no apparent pain, no drainage...of course, they felt terrible for not realizing the situation, but without obvious symptoms...how could they have known?? Needless to say, as soon as that infection was cleared up, their daughter was scheduled for a tonsilectomy/adenoidectomy and eartubes. She bounced back quickly, her speech acquisition took off big-time, and her near-frenetic non-stop physical activity dropped to a manageable level. She's just fine now, as is her big sister.

I hope Anya's experience will turn out equally well.

Best wishes,
Susan in Ky

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