Monday, November 10, 2008
We've talked with Anya and she says she wants to share her story with her classmates.
I'm not completely sure she understands the implications, but I'm going to take her word for it.
I had a quick chat with the teacher this morning. While she was excited about Anya sharing her story, she agreed to keep an eye on her and follow her lead. If, at any point, Anya starts to get squeamish or shuts down, we will pull back and re-evaluate.
Parts of the project require peer evaluation and Q&A. If Anya isn't comfortable sharing the story with her classmates, she will be able to do the evaluation and Q&A with the teacher.
She can also opt out of the presentation in front of parents at a Tea in the spring.
The teacher also showed me the books she will be reading to the kids in the upcoming weeks. The books look pretty good. I'm not uncomfortable with anything as it relates to adoption. There are some books on social issues I'm concerned with, but we'll make sure to talk about all of the books with her. Thankfully, there are no plans to do anything about same-sex parents this year...but its not out of the realm of possibility in the future. (Note to self - keep an eye on it, and start looking seriously at other education possibilities.)
There is one book that talks about an internationally adopted child's three names. The one she was born with, the one the orphanage gave her and the one the parents gave her. It will require a conversation, but I don't think it will be a bad one.
Besides...we can't protect her forever, can we? We can't shelter her from all this stuff. If we did, we wouldn't be doing her any favors.
These are conversations we are going to have to have. I just wish we would have had more warning so we could have had a plan. I still feel this is a huge can of worms just waiting to split wide open, but with the teachers' help we should be able to keep the lid on.