Saturday, May 2, 2009
I'm choosing to believe the reason he brought us out here was to not only have some time with our families, but to find out what needs to be done to help Maddie.
ife has gotten so much clearer since I last posted.
I don't know if it was the catharsis of getting out all of those pent up emotions and confusion, if your comments helped put everything in perspective (thank you by the way) or if time just has a way of bringing everything into focus, but I can honestly say I'm feeling a lot better about where we're at in this decision.
Sure, there are still a lot of unanswered questions, but my consolation lies in the fact that none of this is a surprise to God. Not our decision to move to Wyoming a year ago...or our decision to move back next month. Just as He wasn't surprised by our decision to adopt Maddie. He knew all of it would happen before the foundations of the earth...and His plan will be accomplished in the end.
I can rest in that.
I'm choosing to believe the reason he brought us out here was not only to have some time with our families, but to find out what needs to be done to help Maddie. To give us a standard to shoot for...to not only help Maddie, but other children in the Emerald City and possibly Kansas. (BTW - Don't you just love the new nickname for our old town. I felt especially inspired. ;>)
I'm doing some preliminary research to find out what's available in the Sunflower State and I have to say not much. But that doesn't mean I can't do all I can to make sure other parents have these opportunities.
Before we brought Anya and Nick home in 2002, Iowa (where we were living at the time) had a law that REQUIRED parents to readopt their foreign born children.
It made me ill.
To think after all of the hard work, money and time we went through to bring our children home and that the state wouldn't recognize our kids as our kids - how could they?!
So I got to work.
I called my representatives and finally found one of them that would give me a call back. He worked with me to write legislation that would not only not require the readoption - but would automatically give us birth certificates, with just a small fee and one paper to fill out.
And we made it retroactive. It passed unanimously in both houses and was immediately signed by the governor.
I plan on taking that same approach with this issue. SURELY there are some resources that we can find that can be used to help these kids. If nothing else, we can start up some advocacy groups to help other parents find their way through the IEP stuff. I don't know where all of this is going, but I am hoping to use this experience to help other families.
At least I hope that's what God has in mind! :)